General Discussion Revealing clothes

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  1. Trellum

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    Hello all! This post is mostly directed to the girls out there who currently have a partner. I've a question for you, does your boyfriend like you to wear revealing clothes? or that's a big no?

    I've a very modest code, meaning I don't like to show much. But if I did... I know my boyfriend wouldn't mind (he's european and extremely open minded), he has made that very clear :) My previous exes wouldn't let me wear revealing clothes, even if I wanted :p

    What about your current partner?
     
  2. Jellyfish

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    Ok, I am not a girl but this is a point that always causes problems in my relationships. Women tend way too much to show themselves off. And most of them deny it.
     
  3. Trellum

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    So, you really mind it when your girlfriend does? My current boyfriend is european, and he doesn't seem to mind it one bit! He doesn't seem bothered at all, but my middle eastern exes wouldn't even let me wear tank tops.
     
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    Well, I may have a different standard when it comes to the question what is revealing. If my girlfriend would wear a tank top she either does not wear it or she isn't my girlfriend anymore. Yes, I mind it because there should be no reason to show yourself off when you already have someone.
     
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    Uhm, if you put it that way... it does make a lot sense :D Would you really break up with a girl for that reason? I guess there are things that we just can't stand in a relationship, I can't stand guys who keep making promises but never keep them. I'm glad guys can't wear ''revealing'' clothes, lol. I might have a similar reaction to the one you described ;)
     
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    I broke some relationships but most of the time it was not only because of revealing clothes but because of many things including revealing clothes.
     
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    I think a man who wants to limit what a woman wears has some control issues. Control issues lead to worst things, so beware. If a man accepted you in those clothes when he met you, then he should not change who you are. I had an experience with a young man whom thought he could tell me what to wear, he later began to think he owned me. I had to cut him loose.:oops:
     
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    I had the same experience with my two middle eastern exes, I thought it was connected to their culture and religion. Strangely enough they weren't very religious at all, but they didn't like me to wear tops that showed my cleavage or my shoulders. I've never liked to show too much, but it was kinda annoying to feel they were stopping me from wearing the things I liked. My current boyfriend is Dutch, and he doesn't even care :)
     
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    I think a woman who wears revealing clothes has a lot of issues as well.
     
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    This assumes that women are always dressing to attract others. Many women dress more for themselves than to attract other men. Some women wear revealing clothing because they believe they look good in it. Any man's attraction to her while she is wearing what she feels good in is a happy side affect that she claims no responsibility for.

    I prefer clothing that many would think modest, but I see and express personal power much differently than many women. I believe wearing flowing fabric that drapes the body carries a greater erotic charge than wearing revealing clothing does. I have also noticed that men tend to look at the draped figure longer than they hold their gaze on women wearing revealing clothing.

    Those men are imagining what might be beneath all of that fabric, which is almost more titillating than their seeing your girlfriend in a bikini.

    Do you have same standards for yourself? You don't walk around topless anywhere, do you?
     
  11. Dreek Lass

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    I am a lesbian, and I have had girlfriends in the past that didn't mind me showing off my figure, and I have had girlfriends that did mind, and didn't want to show me off, but keep me all to themselves instead. I think that there is an insecurity in a person that does not want their partner to dress how they actually want to dress, if that dressing style happens to be a little less modest.
     
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    I need to say that I love watching women with revealing clothes, I think it makes the day look better! :)

    But not my wife no, I want her with lots of clothing on the streets because she is MINE! :rolleyes:
     
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    It just tells something bad about the woman so it has nothing to do with insecurites.
     
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    I don't.

    It's an old and outdated position that women dress for themselves. Why do they wear totally normal clothes at home, why don't they put on makeup at home? Most of them only do this when there are other people involved or they want to attract their partners. I don't say they are always seeking attention but in my opinion and in the opinion of most women I talked about that it is a lot about a lack of selfconscionce and
    "fighting" against other women.

    You're obviously not a man so you don't know how men see and think. That phantasy thing is a women's thing. We watch hardcore porn, we don't read some love literature to get some "nice thoughts".
     
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    Not all men watch hardcore porn!! :)

    But I agree, some women dress like that to provoke, others might be somewhat unaware of their figure... maybe!
     
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    Are you dense? The something that is wrong with the woman is that she has one or more insecurities, hence why she does not want or did not want me to go out dressed in the clothes that I had chosen to wear for the evening. I feel like people should be able to wear what they want to wear and express themselves, if the outfits are within reason. If you have a reasonable shirt on and your partner is telling you that it is making them feel bad because it is garnering attraction from other people, then that is an insecurity. Nothing more and nothing less.
     
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    I agree. I believe that people should be free to wear whatever they want to wear. If a person was attracted to you in the first place because you wore revealing clothes, and they accepted you just the way you were then they should continue to do so if they truly love you. If somebody want to control what you wear, what you eat, where you visit and who you hang out with and speak to, that person is not worth being around, and you should cut them loose.
     
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    jodiann12, people are free to wear whatever they want, but some things aren't socially accepted, that doesn't mean I agree, I just love when a woman has few clothes on. :D
     
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    It's interesting to have the point of view of a lesbian girl :) I actually assumed this was the case with women, since my aunt is lesbian and she had been with a woman for a very long time. But they didn't seem to mind the other wore ''revealing'' clothes. They seem to be cool about everything. My aunt is now married to a totally different woman, I personally love wearing tight jeans and shirts, because that's the way I like it :p My boyfriend doesn't mind it at all!!! He thinks is sexy!
     
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    LOL, capa! It's good to know not all men watch hard core porn ;) We often assume most men do, but it's great a man stood up and attempted to destroy this stereotype. I personally hate stereotyping!
     

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